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Trauma: It Is Time to Let Go and Move On

Trauma: It Is Time to Let Go and Move On


Trauma: It Is Time to Let Go and Move On


A bad experience can traumatize you and affect your overall perspective. It can overwhelm your ability to adjust, stay on top of things, or control your life. It can take you down roads that you would usually never dare to tread. Before it’s too late, it is important to take action to overcome the effects of the trauma.

A bad experience should not define you, your life, or your decisions. The key is not to avoid your fears. Learn from them. Be positive. Seek help and don’t allow your trauma to keep you struggling for far too long. Do not let your thoughts be muddled by myths and fears. Understand what trauma is and get to know your enemy with these facts.


Under the Microscope: What Is Trauma?

“Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster,” says the American Psychological Association (APA). It can affect you and the way you think in a manner that may sometimes be not so easily understood or accepted. Traumatic experiences can bring about unpredictable feelings and thoughts that may lead to extreme fears. They can leave you helpless and hopeless, even when the danger is not there anymore, and make letting go of the past and moving on difficult.

Bad life situations are not always avoidable. Accidents leading to life-changing injuries or deaths, natural disasters resulting in losses, or vicious attacks can lead to trauma, whether they happened to you or you were just a witness. Being exposed to a continuing cause of pain and fear can also lead to trauma. Even events that may be regarded as less significant, such as a surgery, a humiliating experience, a divorce in the family, or living with an ailing loved one, may contribute to trauma.


What to Watch Out For: The Risk Factors

Since bad experiences spare no one, neither does trauma. Anyone can have a traumatizing life experience, but not everyone develops post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or other emotional conditions in response. There are certain risk factors that can make you or a loved one vulnerable to PTSD. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), a risk factor is “any attribute, characteristic or exposure of an individual that increases the likelihood of developing a disease or injury.” The Mayo Clinic shares some of the risk factors for PTSD:

  • Experiencing intense or long-lasting trauma
  • Having experienced other trauma earlier in life, including childhood abuse or neglect
  • Having a job that increases your risk of being exposed to traumatic events, such as military personnel and first responders
  • Having other mental health problems, such as anxiety or depression
  • Lacking a good support system of family and friends
  • Having biological (blood) relatives with mental health problems, including PTSD or depression


The Signs That Say “Move On”

The symptoms of trauma or PTSD can shatter your life and dreams. It is a condition that should not be allowed to stand in your path. Reminders of past trauma can take you back to the exact moment of overwhelming terror and trepidation—feelings that may have haunted you for a long time. The horror of the experience can also come back in the form of nightmares, flashbacks, and other manifestations.

PTSD has a broad range of emotional/psychological and physical symptoms; yours may not be the same as those of other sufferers. People react differently to a traumatic experience, and there is no right or wrong response. Some responses that you may possibly experience include numbness, social withdrawal, negative feelings, extreme fear/anxiety, and poor focus. The physical symptoms could be sleeplessness, nightmares, tiredness, muscle tension, aches, and other manifestations of the “fight-or-flight” response common to anxiety.

If the experience is recent, your symptoms of trauma may be more intense. Typically, they can last from a few days to as long as several months or years. The latter is what you must be ready to prevent at all costs.

The ability to adjust is intrinsic to all human beings, but it can be impaired by traumatizing life events. Even after a long time, without closure, past events such as a traumatic childhood experience can catch up to you. Recognizing the signs that you are suffering from trauma is helpful; it can be a good reason to seek professional help or counseling.


Moving Forward: True Help Matters

“You need to let go and move forward.” You will hear this so many times from relatives and friends who genuinely care for you. Your inability to do it can frustrate you further. You may question your resilience—are you weak? Is this why you can’t leave the past behind to advance to the next phase of your life?

In an effort to help yourself, you may fall prey to suggestions and myths, or self-help guides that proliferate on the Web. You may be vulnerable to more bad experiences that complicate your trauma further. What can you do to make things better?

There is nothing wrong with self-help. It is important that you stay interested in improving your circumstances. It is good to be patient, because healing from emotional or psychological pain can take time, but don’t waste it wallowing in a corner waiting for a miracle. It is good to have supportive relatives and friends, but do not discount the fact that they may not fully comprehend your emotional condition. It is good to continue caring for yourself, though this may not be a priority when you are gripped by trauma.

However, you should also seek the kind of professional help that can make moving on possible. A therapist contracted with Carolina Counseling Services — Pinehurst, NC, can help you heal, finally. You can revisit the past through a healthy therapeutic process to accept and finally exorcise what happened.


Facing Your Trauma with Courage

The past is past. It cannot be changed. Beautiful experiences can inspire you and make you a better person, just as ugly, traumatic ones can hinder your growth, if they go unprocessed. Letting go and moving on can be challenging, but it isn’t impossible with professional help from CCS. You can benefit from counseling. You can make more beautiful memories by extricating yourself from the painful memories of the past.

Traumatic experiences can derail your life and positive outlook. Revisiting the past and reprocessing your bad experiences can be done in a healthy way to make them a source of learning and inspiration. Staying gripped by the unpleasant events in your life can leave you disconnected and afraid. Overcome your trauma and build a new healthy and positive life with the help of a therapist contracted with Carolina Counseling Services — Pinehurst, NC. Call now and let us help you escape your paralyzing past.


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