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Finding Your Own Strength During Grief

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Finding Your Own Strength During Grief


Losing someone or something is inevitable, so grief and sorrow are very human and natural. Despite the knowledge, even the acceptance, you are still vulnerable to immense pain that comes with the loss. One too many who have gone through the experience have succumbed to extreme grief, it resulted in bouncing back being extremely difficult. A great number of those in grief, however, have also made it, bouncing back and moving forward, even with the heaviness in their hearts.

If you are in the midst of pain because of a loss, you may be wondering what you can do to recover. Is living through grief possible? Is there a light waiting for you at the end of the dark tunnel? Who can help you find the strength to bounce back and move on?


The Grief That Grips

Grief is a reaction to any form of loss.” It encompasses a number of emotions, ranging from immense pain and sadness to resentment and anger. Your reactions can be likened to sailing across a raging sea. You could feel like you are enveloped by darkness, it may seem like it will go on and on for eternity. Your anguish may lambast and weaken you. You may lose hope and feel helpless, blurring your vision of a fulfilling future.

The reactions are not the same for all people. They will vary, depending on a lot of psychosocial factors. Thus, accepting and adjusting to the loss may also vary, even in your family who has experienced the same loss. Comforting gestures and support from loved ones matter, but they may be lost in the intensity of your feelings. You may lose power over your emotions and life, but it isn’t too late to bounce back anew.


Grief as a Source of Strength

 “Tragedy should be used as a source of strength.”   In the midst of grief when you are drowning in sorrow, it can be difficult to maintain an optimistic perspective. Most likely, the intensity of your negative feelings will prevent you from ever believing that you can still heal and escape your rut unbroken. To be told that your grief can be your source of strength may fall on “deaf ears.” If it is true, the question is: How?

Just as the expression and intensity of grief vary from one individual to another, there are also varied ways of accepting loss and adjusting to the new life afterwards. There is no right or wrong strategy, except for plunging into continued grief, not doing anything about it or turning to risky behaviors. One healthy strategy that can help resuscitate your hope and passion for life might be counseling.


How Counseling Works

Numbed with grief, you may lose sight of your goals as your determination weakens by the day. Counseling can help you rise above your challenges. It can help you with your own kind of grief and the process you are going through. It can help you sort out and explore the issues that could be complicating your grief or preventing you from moving on. It can help you rediscover your strengths and your goals that kept you strong before a painful loss, so you can better adjust to your new life.

Counseling can also help in resolving your conflicts with the important people in your life. It isn’t unusual for someone wallowing in grief to feel anger and to take it out on those people around them, hurting them in the process. With counseling, there is a way to examine the emotions in a healthy, positive manner. It may not be able to give you back what you lost, but through the process you can regain, even fortify your resilience.


After Grief: A Stronger You

It isn’t likely to go through life without experiencing grief at some time. The more loving and passionate you are, the more vulnerable you can be to it. The key is not to avoid it because you can’t. It doesn’t work. The key is to seek the assistance of a counselor/therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Pinehurst, NC, so, you can rise above your pain.

Counseling can help you look back and re-examine your trials and defeats. It can help you accept that failing and pain are not harmful or evil and that they are as natural as breathing and living. It can result in your accepting that unfortunate experiences are usually the most effective teachers of life lessons, so that they can define you rather than break you.

You are responsible for your life. You can change it at will. Understanding this helps in monitoring your responses, decisions, and their consequences or impact in your life.  This is what counseling can do to help you ease your grief and the other emotions complicating it. With the help of caring counselor independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Pinehurst, NC you can rediscover your “power” to regulate your thoughts and its manifestations. This can lead you to finding your strength again, so you can continue living in the most meaningful way you can. Call today!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Pinehurst, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, Hoke County, Chatham County

Areas: Pinehurst NC, West End NC, Taylortown NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Jackson Springs NC, Foxfire NC, Candor NC, Norman NC, Ellerbe NC, Rockingham NC

Zip Codes: 27281, 27376, 28315, 28347, 28350, 28373, 28374, 28387, 28388, 28394

Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
Insurance: BCBSTricare Prime/Select, Medicare and Cash
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Location: Pinehurst, NC

Robin Caswell, MSW, LCSW

Specializes in: (Ages 5+), Individuals, Adults, Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Loss, ADHD, ODD, Trauma/PTSD, LGBTQ, Self-Harm, Military Family Life, Mood Disorders, OCD, Phobias
Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare and Cash
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Location: Pinehurst, NC

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Carolina Counseling Services – Pinehurst, NC

45 Dowd Circle Suite 5
PinehurstNC 28374

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Fayetteville, NC 28311