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Feeling Good | Escaping Self-harm

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Feeling Good | Escaping Self-harm


People react to their troubles and negative feelings in different ways. Some people find relief by finding an outlet, such as talking, getting angry, oversleeping, overeating, or getting into a physical activity. There are also people who attempt to cope by harming themselves.

Self-harm is a risky way to face issues that bother you. If you feel good when you inflict pain on yourself, it could be because the act is helping you express an intense feeling that’s gnawing inside. The act could be also symbolical, intending to control things in your life that you can because there are other significant aspects you can’t. It could be your way of punishing yourself, easing guilt, wanting to feel pain rather than numbness, or distracting yourself from your issues or overwhelming feelings.

Self-harm is an unhealthy, futile and dangerous way to address your issues, but there is a way out of it. Counseling can help in understanding what’s causing you to self-harm and in discovering healthy alternatives to feel better.


Why Self-harm Deserves Attention

You deserve to feel good – everyone does. Self-harm, however, can create a false feeling of relief, but it does not really change anything in your life. In fact, it can even make things worse, creating more issues and complications in the long run. Once the short-lived pain is gone, everything comes back along with feelings of guilt, remorse, and/or shame. This is one of the reasons why it has to stop. There are other critical reasons why you need to stop self-harm:


  • It is a risky behavior.  It is also addictive. Maybe you initially just wanted to increase your sense of control over your life, not knowing that it may turn into an obsessive behavior that you may have difficulty stopping. Once it becomes a habit, there is always that possibility that it may lead to something worse, though unintentional.


  • It can put you at risk to worse emotional conditions, such as depression and anxiety. It can also lead to unhealthy vices, like substance abuse, again in an attempt to address your issues.


  • It can affect how you relate with others. Being done in secrecy, you are likely to carry on in life with it alone. Most people consider it a taboo, which could be why you want to keep it to yourself. Doing so, you stand to live in social withdrawal, harming your relationships as you conceal and live with it.


  • It can also hurt you badly. Ending life probably is not your intention, just the negative feeling. You can, however, accidentally make deeper cuts or they can become complicated because of infections, resulting to a life-threatening complication.


Are You or a Loved One in Need of Help?

Maybe, you don’t think that you are doing self-harm. Maybe, you just want to feel something or take the attention away from a pervasive bad feeling. Or maybe a loved one is doing self-harm, but you don’t know about it. What are the signs you need to recognize to be able to seek the proper intervention?

According to Help Guide, the warning signs and symptoms of self-harm include:


  • cutting or severely scratching your skin
  • burning or scalding yourself
  • hitting yourself or banging your head
  • punching things or throwing your body against walls and hard objects
  • sticking objects into your skin
  • intentionally preventing wounds from healing
  • swallowing poisonous substances or inappropriate objects


Self-harm may also manifest in putting yourself in danger, such as being reckless in driving, substance abuse, drinking, etc.

Being committed in secrecy, self-harm is often undetected. This is why recognizing the symptoms of a loved one, especially a child or teen, is more challenging.  Some red flags to watch out for are:


  • Mysterious scars or injuries on the arms, wrists, thighs, chest, or other parts of the body.


  • Blood-soaked cottons, gauzes or clothing pieces or marks on towels, garments, etc.


  • Possession of cutting devices in their bags, drawers, room, etc.


  • Frequent “mishaps” to explain mysterious injuries.


  • Wearing long pants or tops with long sleeves inappropriately (for instance, during a hot, humid day) to conceal cuts, wounds and scars.


  • Spending a long time inside the bathroom or bedroom and avoiding people.


  • Change in behavior, becoming irritable and wanting to be alone most of the time.


Feel Better and Escape Self-harm

People who self-harm are not just looking for attention. They are also just trying to manipulate people. The tendency to use physical pain as a way to ease intense emotions is unhealthy, deceptive and poses much danger. You or a loved one need not engage in this harmful tendency, you need to be able to express your feelings in some other way, such as talking (preferably to a therapist) or find healthy ways to channel your feelings.

With the help of a competent and understanding therapist, you can begin to realize that it isn’t something that you should conceal or feel guilt/shame about. If there is a lesson to be learned, it is that overcoming self-harm entails treatment in the hands of a competent and right-fit therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Pinehurst, NC.

Are you or a loved one engaging in NSSI (nonsuicidal self-injury) or self-harm? What you need is expert assistance. If you fear being ostracized or being talked about, talk to a nonjudgmental, contracted therapist with Carolina Counseling Services – Pinehurst, NC. It is good to talk about it with someone you can trust, but it is more productive to talk about self-harm and entrust your issues to a right-fit therapist. Call now!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Pinehurst, NC

Counties: Moore county, NC, Lee County, Hoke County, Chatham County

Areas: Pinehurst NC, West End NC, Taylortown NC, Seven Lakes NC, Eagle Springs NC, Jackson Springs NC, Foxfire NC, Candor NC, Norman NC, Ellerbe NC, Rockingham NC

Zip Codes: 27281, 27376, 28315, 28347, 28350, 28373, 28374, 28387, 28388, 28394

Kelly ErkenBrack, LCSW

Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Loss, Mood Disorders, Trauma, Adjustments and Life Transitions, ADHD, Behavioral Issues, Parenting, Relationship Concerns, Self Esteem
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Robin Caswell, MSW, LCSW

Specializes in: (Ages 5+), Individuals, Adults, Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Loss, ADHD, ODD, Trauma/PTSD, LGBTQ, Self-Harm, Military Family Life, Mood Disorders, OCD, Phobias
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Location: Pinehurst, NC

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