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How Counseling Can Help Children with Behavior Problems

How Counseling Can Help Children with Behavior Problems


How Counseling Can Help Children with Behavior Problems


Many parents resort to extra stern discipline when their child exhibits bad behavior. It is debatable whether that works for children. While effective discipline can teach a child to be responsible for their actions, one thing is certain: there are children who don’t respond to punishment well.

If you use various kinds of punishment to make your child “toe the line,” you may find yourself at your wit’s end when it fails to elicit the kind of result you expect. What next? How about counseling?


Your Child’s Behavior: What’s the Message?

When your child misbehaves, you may think that they are purposely being difficult. In an effort to curb the misbehavior, you may employ stricter discipline. However, there could be more there than meets the eye.

While there is always the possibility that your child is intentionally being difficult, there is also a chance that they are struggling with an emotional or behavioral condition. This can happen when your child has depression, anxiety, mood disorder, etc. The misbehavior could be their way of telling you that they need your help.

Ignoring this message may make your child suffer more. Instead, pay attention and seek professional help. Counseling can help uncover the core issues your child is dealing with and their roots. You can also benefit as a parent, as it can help you better understand your child and improve your relationship with them. Thus, for the child and the family’s benefit, counseling must be sought at the earliest time possible.


What’s Behind “Misbehavior”?

Many parents are unable to read between the lines of their child’s behavior. This is because it isn’t easy to differentiate normal behavior from signs of behavioral issues among children. Generally, it takes an expert armed with experience and diagnostic tools to spot the differences.

For example, you may think that all children have tantrums and accept it as a normal behavior for children. However, what’s normal for a child at two or three years of age may not be normal for a child aged seven or eight. If your older child has meltdowns, there is good reason to suspect that it isn’t a normal behavior.

A child’s behavior is closely linked to age or developmental stage, and you must also consider the uniqueness of your child’s personality. Children change as they grow up, which is why many parents think that misbehavior can just be a passage. Deciding whether they need discipline or professional help can be critical at this time. You can prevent your child from undue suffering by soliciting the help and guidance of an experienced child counselor or therapist.


The Signs That Scream “Help!”

It is easy to miss the signs of an emotional condition. Certain disruptive behaviors can catch your eye—outbursts, fury or hostility, and outright disobedience or defiance—yet these may also be exhibited by emotionally healthy children. You can’t just conclude that the behavior isn’t normal.

What you can do is to observe whether the child exhibits other unusually disruptive or alarming behaviors—aggressiveness, excessive moodiness, a sudden drop in school performance, social withdrawal, and signs of anguish, melancholy, anxiety, hopelessness, or helplessness. There are also certain behaviors that must not be tolerated or taken lightly, says Kidshealth. These manifestations include “excessive anger, acting out, bedwetting or eating disorders.” 

Silence, introverted behavior, or social withdrawal can be more difficult to interpret. With these manifestations, you may be glad that your child is causing you no trouble. What you may not see are the bottled-up emotions that can erupt at any time. This is why it helps to provide counseling promptly when your child has gone through a traumatic experience: an accident, abuse or bullying, the death of a pet or a family member, the divorce or separation of parents, custody issues, a severe sickness, etc. Early intervention is best. Silence is not a sign that your child is all right.


Counseling as a Proactive Intervention

Discipline for misbehaving children is not without merit, but it can be counterproductive when your child is dealing with an emotional condition. Every needy child deserves counseling or therapy. The earlier you provide it, the better it can help your child. Just watching them helplessly won’t help. A proactive solution is to seek help from Carolina Counseling Services — Pinehurst, NC.

Of course, you can use discipline as a complementary parenting approach to teach values to your children, but if your child’s misbehavior has an emotional root, discipline may not be effective in changing it, because it isn’t a passing phase. To help your child have a life and relationships built around positive behavior, call Carolina Counseling Services — Pinehurst, NC.  


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