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ADHD: Is It Undermining Your Child?

ADHD: Is It Undermining Your Child?


ADHD: Is It Undermining Your Child?


It is estimated to affect 5 percent of children, based on surveys made by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Another figure—11 percent of school-aged children—has been shared by the organization Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD).

ADHD can make your child’s life more challenging and follow your child into adulthood. It isn’t, however, an insurmountable obstacle to a successful life. It is believed by experts that many adults who developed ADHD when they were young and get early professional help have a fair chance of successfully achieving their life goals.

To support your child through the challenges ADHD presents, you need to be realistic and empowered. Nobody says it will be easy to accept that your beloved child is different, but understanding the condition is vital for you as a parent.


ADHD: What Is It?

According to CHADD, ADHD was first documented in 1902, and earned several names early on: “minimal brain dysfunction, hyperkinetic reaction of childhood, and attention-deficit disorder with or without hyperactivity.” Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is the name that is now accepted as official, based on the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, Fifth Edition (DSM-5).

Inattention is a hallmark feature of the condition, as are impulsivity and hyperactivity. This may lead you to ask, “But isn’t inattention common in most children?” It is true that inattentiveness is common among children, especially toddlers, just like being excitable and active. Thus, when your child manifests these traits, don’t go overboard right away in worrying or jumping to conclusions.

If your young child is excessively inattentive, impulsive, and active, however, it is important not to take the behaviors lightly. If they are always having trouble on the playground or at school, they can’t finish school tasks, or they seem to be always losing belongings, it is best to bring them to a professional for diagnosis—the sooner, the better.


The Symptoms: Is This Your Child?

The symptoms of ADHD are non-specific, meaning they can also be observed in children who don’t have ADHD. This is the reason why you may not recognize them. However, if you notice the following symptoms, as cited in a WebMD post, see a therapist who can evaluate and diagnose your child.  

The symptoms can be grouped into the categories of inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity:

  • Inattention:
  • Is easily distracted
  • Doesn’t follow directions or finish tasks
  • Doesn’t appear to be listening
  • Doesn’t pay attention and makes careless mistakes
  • Forgets about daily activities
  • Has problems organizing daily tasks
  • Doesn’t like to do things that require sitting still
  • Often loses things
  • Tends to daydream


  • Hyperactivity:
  • Often squirms, fidgets, or bounces when sitting
  • Doesn’t stay seated
  • Has trouble playing quietly
  • Is always moving, such as running or climbing on things (in teens and adults, this is more commonly described as restlessness)
  • Talks excessively
  • Is always “on the go” as if “driven by a motor”


  • Impulsivity:
  • Has trouble waiting for his or her turn
  • Blurts out answers
  • Interrupts others


Beyond Childhood: Adult ADHD

The symptoms of ADHD usually become evident at age three to six, when children start attending school and have to sustain focus longer to participate in learning activities. Know, however, that it can also affect adults. Some have had ADHD since they were young, but didn’t receive proper diagnosis and treatment. For adults, the symptoms are more variable, and can change significantly over time. They are:

  • Chronic lateness and forgetfulness
  • Anxiety
  • Low self-esteem
  • Problems at work
  • Trouble controlling anger
  • Impulsiveness
  • Substance abuse or addiction
  • Unorganized
  • Procrastination
  • Easily frustrated
  • Chronic boredom
  • Trouble concentrating when reading
  • Mood swings
  • Depression
  • Relationship problems


The Outlook: Success vs. Failure

If your child has ADHD, it is normal to wonder if the condition is a prescription for failure or if they have dimmer prospects than other children. The results of a study by Professor Rachel Klein of NYU Langone Medical Center, who examined 135 ADHD boys, could discourage you. Most received less education and lower wages, and had higher rates of substance abuse and failed marriages.

To date, it is maintained that ADHD can decrease a child’s chance to succeed in life. This is not surprising considering that a child with ADHD is likely not to finish tasks. So, there is a big chance that they will fall behind and fail in school. They can also exhibit behaviors that make other children avoid them, leaving them isolated and lonely. All this can hurt their self-esteem, lower their self-worth, and breed or reinforce negativity, delinquency, disruptive and risky behavior, etc. It may also lead to serious repercussions beyond childhood: difficulty maintaining relationships, academic failure, strained or disrupted family connections, difficulty holding a job, depression, and accidental injuries, among others.

According to ADHD expert Dr. Bob Myers, however, it is possible for an individual with ADHD to succeed. Myers believes that ADHD is a “brain difference.” This means that children with the condition have “a different way of learning and experiencing the world” and a different skill set from average children. Thus, to successfully adapt, they have to take advantage of their strengths.


The Challenge: Parenting a Child with ADHD

Even when you know that your child with ADHD has a “brain difference,” it isn’t easy to meet the special needs they have. Parenting and interacting with such children could be likened to riding a roller coaster. They can overwhelm you with their tendencies to get sidetracked and confused, act spontaneously, and behave out of control. The difficulty can increase as they reach puberty and adolescence, when they experience more challenges.

Behind the ADHD symptoms is a child whose life, health, and future are in your hands. If you do not address their needs, they will have a slim chance of achieving their dreams. They may never even get near to knowing what they want in life or what they can hope to be. These prospects can scare you. Where can you find the courage to bravely support your child in the best way possible?


Braving the Challenge

The deep, dark waters of uncertainty can grip you with terror. They are best navigated and crossed with an expert who is familiar with what lies under. Brave the challenge by seeking out someone who understands and can provide expert assistance—a child therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services — Pinehurst, NC.

An expert therapist contracted with CCS will know how to make your child feel understood, safe, and reassured. They can empower you with specific parenting techniques to satisfy your child’s special needs. Like their peers, your child can enjoy a positive outlook on life, despite ADHD. Call Carolina Counseling Services — Pinehurst, NC. Explore the options, and work together for the beautiful future that awaits your beloved child.


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