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Addressing Behavior Concerns at School

Addressing Behavior Concerns at School


Addressing Behavior Concerns at School


What parent hasn’t dreamt of having a well-behaved child who is easy to raise and to have around? While parents love their children no matter what they are like, it is normal to wish they were better behaved, notwithstanding occasional mischievousness, which is normal among children.

With the common notion that good behavior is tied to success in life, you are likely to worry when your child’s school starts calling you more often than customary. You are also likely to think that misbehavior in school may seriously impact your child’s learning and performance, affecting their long-term success.

You could be right on all counts, but it isn’t the end of the world. Learning and behavioral issues can be addressed with the right attitude and help.


Concerns That May Worry You

According to Empowering Parents, learning and behavioral concerns at school may take several forms: acting out at school, dropping grades, skipping school (if they’re old enough), and/or “hating their teachers” or someone else in the school. Your child may also get involved in other troubling activities to express their emotions or thoughts. These can frustrate and embarrass you.

More than anything, these behaviors can hurt your child, their relationships with their peers and school authorities, their insights and perspectives, and their future. For these reasons, you may be compelled to apply discipline—usually the front-line parenting strategy for handling misbehaving children. Discipline works, but you need to understand how for your child to benefit from it.

You will need to figure out what’s causing your child to react or behave in an unacceptable manner, with the help of a professional.


A Second Look at Discipline

Discipline can help in addressing your child’s learning and behavior concerns, if it is used appropriately. According to Pediatrics and Child Health, “discipline means to impart knowledge and skill—to teach.” Often, however, it is “equated with punishment and control.” Good discipline is not harsh and is not meant to destroy the parent-child bond. It “does not instill shame, negative guilt, a sense of abandonment or a loss of trust.” Rather, “it instills a sense of greater trust,” reaffirming and reinforcing what’s between the parent and the child. For it to be effective, it has to guide and teach your child to become conscious of what is right and what is unacceptable.

The goal of discipline is to keep the child safe and to foster good behavior by helping them effectively adjust to the world. This later becomes the backbone of your child’s self-discipline and decision making. The successful use of discipline can help your child succeed in attaining their own objectives and be happy in the process.

Discipline can, therefore, help in addressing your child’s learning and behavior concerns at school, but it may require that you get to the bottom of their issues first. If the learning difficulty and behavioral concerns are triggered by a learning disability or a behavioral/emotional condition, it may be best addressed with a professional counselor or therapist.


What You Should Not Miss

There are many reasons why your child may be challenged at school. If your child’s behavior is stemming from a condition or from any thought/feeling that’s confusing them, they need understanding and help.  


You, Your Child, and a Therapist “Against the World”

It is possible to practice discipline with understanding and compassion, and without making your child unloved, alone, and unwanted. However, the National Institute of Mental Health says that improper discipline will only make your child cooperate temporarily and misbehave more. To address your child’s learning challenges and behavioral issues, the key is to enlist the help of a therapist or counselor contracted with Carolina Counseling Services Pinehurst, NC.

If your child has a disability like anxiety, oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), or attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), the learning difficulty and behavioral manifestations could be symptoms that must not be ignored. A professional counselor/therapist with Carolina Counseling Services Pinehurst, NC, can assess their symptoms for proper diagnosis. It is the first step toward getting the appropriate help and treatment.

Call Carolina Counseling Services Pinehurst, NC, for guidance and assistance. An independent therapist contracted with CCS can help you create a safe environment for your child and connect with your child in a compassionate manner, to guide the process and understand their emotions and thoughts.


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